Jan
04

An Easy Approach To Writing and Giving Father of The Bride Speeches

The moment has finally come. Your daughter is getting married. The drama, the expense, and the hope that your sweet little girl will now have a good life with her husband are probably all wearing on you. It’s hard to know what to say. So when the time comes to make a father of the bride speech, you should be prepared.

Father of the bride speeches are important, they’re a moment for you to share with all of the wedding guests, and especially with your two children – the daughter you already had and the son you have just gained. The most important thing you can do is practice your speech. But what if you don’t have a speech? Don’t worry, it is easier to write a father of the bride speech than you think.

While you may not be a poet, chances are that you have a few thoughts in your head to start with. Don’t worry about sentences at the beginning, you can write those later. The first step is to get your thoughts onto paper, so write down any phrase or image that comes to your mind. Make a goal for yourself so you have something to work towards such as writing down ten memories of your daughter, or two things you thought when you first met her fiancée. It doesn’t matter if they seem silly at first, you can use these things to brainstorm later by asking yourself why they stick in your memory.

Once you have written some things down, look over it all. Circle things that seem positive. You can use that. A simple speech comes from the heart, it doesn’t have to be fancy. Just a fond memory and a wish for a great future will mean more on this day than anything else. So if you feel stuck just remember to tell your daughter that you love her, and wish the new couple well. That may seem hard, but it’s the most important part of your speech. Remember that part and make sure that you end your speech with a toast to the bride. Father of the bride speeches don’t have to be long, so focus on one clear idea and don’t worry about having to say everything you possibly could.

Once you’ve written a speech, read it out loud. Does it feel like you were talking to someone you were comfortable with? The best father of the bride speeches are ones that feel natural. So try to write from the heart, and once you have a few words on the page practice saying them. Practice saying them a lot, because chances are you will be really nervous when the time comes to give your father of the bride speech. But don’t worry, just breath. You’ll be dancing at the reception in no time!

Jan
04

Take It Easy And Amaze The Audience With A Great Best Man Speech!

The best man speech is a really great part of any good wedding. Think back on the weddings you’ve been to. There are a few moments from them you’ll probably remember. You probably remember the vows. Were they sweet? Funny?

They’re important for the couple, to tell each other how they feel. There aren’t a lot of other opportunities this profound.

The other things you probably remember are the wedding speeches and the family toasts. After that, things might start to get a bit hazy for you. Music, food, dancing, awkward relatives.

But let’s go back to the wedding speeches.

I won’t say that the best man speech is the most important speech. It might be, but I won’t say it. But I will say that it’s a uniquely important opportunity to let everyone know how good you feel about your buddy. The best man speeches make everyone know that these people have the support of their community.

So don’t cop out! Don’t go up there unprepared, and don’t settle for a speech that isn’t you best. It can be tough, but fortunately, there are some ways to make sure it gets done right.

Try using a formal structure. You can make up your own or find one on the internet, but if your speech is going to be effective, it got to flow right, not wander. Think where you want to go and how to get there.

Make sure you practice it. Do it in front of an audience, at least an audience of one. You can give it from a fully written version at this point, but you can’t read off a paper at the wedding. Make some note cards to remember the important points.

Take it easy! Have a drink, but only one. Sit calmly and gather yourself and remind yourself that there is no kinder audience than a wedding. Don’t think about what people will think of you. Just think of how you feel about your buddy and his new wife.

If all goes well, and it will, you’ll be prepared and have it together to make the wedding the best it can be. Remember, there is no amount of cake or decoration that can make up for a lack of great best man speeches.

Jan
03

How To Come Up With Humorous And Yet Sincere Wedding Speeches

I am not a shy person by any means, yet I find public speaking a little on the intimidating side. Therefore, my advice to delivering wedding speeches, is to make it humorous, yet sentimental. For example, if you start things out with humor, this will lighten the mood, and cause you to be more relaxed. You don’t want to leave out the emotional parts, but if you start things out with a funny statement, it can help you move into those sentimental, and touching moments later.

Now when writing your speech, make sure the opening and the closing statement’s are remarkable, for, those are the moments the guests will remember the most. You want to start and end your speech with a bang.

Everyone loves to be entertained, and this is your job. Engage the audience, make them feel the emotion behind your words. Make frequent eye contact, and take a few second pauses when trying to emphasize the moment. This will give the guests a personal feel to the point you are trying to get across.

Although, there are things you don’t want to include in wedding speeches. For example, if you are the best man, then do not include the groom’s secret plan to sleep with all the bridesmaids. No one is interested in that type of information, especially not the bride. This would not go over well, with the bride’s family, and you probably wouldn’t be given the opportunity to finish your speech.

Also, ex-girlfriends, or boyfriends, is in addition a big no, no. Now if you are speaking on behalf of the bride, then keep her personal information in as well. No one wants to know that she has slept with half the men that are in attendance, especially not the groom. Instead of letting their skeleton’s out of the closet, try to focus on the positive things about them. What type of people are they? How did they meet? Were they simply friends, then it grew into something more? Was he her hero, or did she save him somehow? This is the type of information that needs to be mentioned.

Another thing to avoid, is alcohol. Try not to drink too much before delivering your speech. Nothing would be more humiliating than delivering your speech with slurred words, or by staggering, while standing. This would a total display of disrespect. Save the drinks, until after you have successfully delivered your wedding speech.

Remember, keep it short and sweet, and you will be fine. If you find it hard to relax, then maybe share that with everyone. The guests can appreciate, and understand you being a little nervous, and this will help you better relax. Tell a few jokes, funny moments, and end it on s sentimental note. That is the best way to show your gratitude for being chosen to speak at such a wonderful occasion, and will be remembered for years to come.

Dec
13

Wedding Speeches and The Order They Are Given During Wedding Receptions

Wedding Toast SpeechesIf you are looking to order your wedding speeches according to modern day wedding styles, you are not the only one. Modern day wedding speeches are more in depth, plus more speeches are made. Traditionally, the women never gave a wedding speech, and it was really just the father of the bride, the groom, and the best man. The best man speech used to be quite different too. He used to read of the telegrams that were sent to the bride and groom for their wedding.

In most weddings today we have at least five speeches, if not more. Sometimes the mother of the bride and groom talk as well, or other guests may talk, such as grandparents or godparents. Occasionally the bride may even want to say a few words of her own, but most of the time the groom speaks on her behalf.

Here is a possible list of individuals who can give a wedding speech -

  • Father of the Bride
  • Best Man
  • Groom
  • Maid of Honor
  • Mother of the Bride
  • Bride
  • Father of the Groom
  • Mother of the Groom
  • Grandparents or Godparents of the Bride
  • Grandparents or Godparents of the Groom
  • A friend or a member of the family

Well, too many wedding speeches could dampen the spirit and make the entire event boring since you can’t expect all the speakers to be great speakers. So, it is best to keep the number of speakers 4 – 5 at most. For example, when you have a best man to give a speech, a father of the groom’s speech is something you can omit. Ask the grandparents if they are really willing to deliver a speech; in most cases they aren’t. Actually most weddings have three wedding speeches and the top four speeches that are delivered are

  1. Father of the Bride Speeches
  2. Groom Speeches
  3. Best Man Speeches
  4. Maid of Honor Speeches

which are often given in that order.

As the bride and groom you have the ultimate decision of the order of your wedding speeches. You can put them in whatever order you wish, you just should give your speakers a heads up so they know when it will be their turn to talk, plus if they want to make fun of the speaker before them or after them, they can prepare.  This means you will have to decide on the order of wedding speeches early. But please do not stress on it too long. It is not a very important aspect of your wedding.